By Tim Elmore

 

I enjoyed dinner with a group of business executives in Cancun, Mexico, recently. During our conversation, several spoke about the vacations they’ve taken with their children and how much they relished those trips. Eventually, however, those parents admitted they worried about their kids’ sense of entitlement. After all, they’d experienced places like the Amalfi Coast, Dubai, Barcelona, and Shanghai. Doubtless the kids loved it—but did they now expect it?

 

When children get these kinds of experiences, they are both amazing and spoiling. 

 

I recall providing rare trips and experiences to my children occasionally as they grew up, but along the way, I was haunted by the same concerns. Will this seem normal? Will they now suffer from the “encore problem,” where nothing short of stunning is sufficient? Will they assume they deserve the lifestyles of the rich and famous? Will they develop a subconscious appetite to keep up with the Kardashians? 

 

While I may be exaggerating, I began to ponder a solution.

 

Exposing Them to Extremes

As a leader and educator, I’ve always attempted to make our trips learning experiences. As I’ve grown, I saw the value in exposing lower-income students to amazing places where their dreams could expand, and their expectations could be increased for their life. Kids who’ve lived in poverty benefit from seeing beyond the nine-block radius they’ve been limited to and envision what it might look like to attend college or work for a large company with a big mission. 

 

Liz Murray told me how she’d grown up as a homeless kid on the streets of New York, never imagining she could expect anything else until a teacher took her and other underprivileged teens to visit Harvard University. She said it changed her life. She attended, graduated, and wrote a book called Breaking Night, on how she was able to move from homeless to Harvard. I’ll never forget her telling me how she stood in front of a washer and dryer in her dorm the first day on campus. She and a fellow student both cried as they stared at the machines. Liz wept because she’d never had a washer and dryer to use. The other student wept because she never had to use hers before, and now, she was forced to do so.

 

Herein lies the value of extremes.

 

Kids from middle class and affluent areas gain just as much as Liz did when they’re exposed to places completely different than their own familiar territory. It can be eye-opening to visit impoverished communities where families live more happily than wealthy communities because they have each other and don’t need the possessions we assume we need. This can reset what’s been normalized for them. 

 

Greater exposure and new experiences are like mentors. My wife and I raised our children in upper-middle class America, but regularly took trips to less privileged areas like Split, Croatia (during the Bosnian-Serbian conflict), where we served refugees. We visited the streets of Kingston, Jamaica, where we served lower-income families. And several times, we drove to downtown Atlanta, 25 minutes away, where we’d feed and serve the homeless. As a family, we’d always debrief these experiences, having seen people who did not enjoy the possessions and privileges we did. I wanted to redefine normal. 

 

What’s the Benefit?

This article may feel like simple common sense. Perhaps it is. Too many of us, however, struggle to equip our young people to recognize the life they live may not be normal for most people, both rich and poor. Everyone expands and grows when we get to see something vastly different from our norm. We gain perspective. The value of witnessing another extreme is immense:

 

• Seeing an area more elaborate and impressive may increase the vision of a teen.
• Seeing an area less privileged and less impressive may increase the gratitude of a teen.

 

A NexStar Media Survey reported nearly all parents worry about their kids being spoiled. Sixty percent admitted their children were “a little spoiled” and 32 percent admitted their kids were “spoiled rotten.” My work with the emerging generation teaches me that abundance and poverty are valuable for them to see. What’s more, research shows that the happiest people in the world right now are not those who live in the wealthiest, most industrialized nations. They live in places where they have less but require less to be happy. The truth is, the most satisfied people are not the ones who possess the most, but the ones who need the least. 

 

My advice? Expose your young people to the other extreme and engage in meaningful dialogue about their observations. This will surely offer perspective.

 

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By Tim Elmore

 

In 1994, Mother Teresa gave a speech where she recounted the story of four people on the street in Calcutta. She asked the sisters who were with her to take care of three of them, telling them she would tend to the fourth;  the one who seemed closest to dying. 

 

As Mother Teresa did everything she could to comfort, feed, and help the woman feel comfortable in a bed, the woman had a beautiful smile on her face. She took Teresa’s hand as she uttered two words: “Thank you.” Then she died with a smile on her face. 

 

Mother Teresa, reflecting on the moment, shared with her audience a personal revelation, “I could not help but examine my own conscience in that moment. What would I say if I were in her place? My answer was simple. I would have tried to draw a little attention to myself. I would have said, ‘I am hungry, I am dying, I am in pain’ or something like that. But she gave me much more; she gave me her gratitude and died with a smile on her face.”

 

We’ve all uttered the phrase to someone when they do something unexplainable: “What were you thinking?” We say it to our kids, spouses, or colleagues in their irrational moments.  The question is quite paramount. What we are thinking explains our words and actions. In Mother Teresa’s story, the dying woman was focused on the kindness she’d just received from a stranger, instead of the condition she was in.

 

May I ask you: In this moment, what are you thinking?

 

What I Am Thinking

The Thanksgiving holiday is upon us. It’s the time of the year when we most consciously reflect on the things and people from whom we’ve benefited. Sadly, Thanksgiving is only a season for most people. The next time you find yourself feeling resentful, entitled, or perturbed, ask: What was I thinking? You clearly were focused on some inequity or inconvenience in your life, not the bigger picture. 

 

If You Think, You’ll Thank. 

 

Usually, when I ponder the word “thankful,” I am oriented toward the past. I am grateful for someone or something that’s entered my life in the past. Today, I am oriented in my thanksgiving toward the future; and toward you. I am thankful to you who serve the next generation. Your focus on preparing the next generation to lead the way one day is a forward-thinking orientation. One focused on the future of our world:

 

• The young team members who will one day lead.
• The young students who will one day teach.
• Even your own children, who will one day care for others.

 

Thanks for what you do now to prepare our young for the future.

 

 

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In the fast-paced world of business, time is a precious commodity. How you manage it can significantly impact your productivity and overall success. Effective time management isn’t just about working harder; it’s about working smarter. By adopting strategic techniques, you can maximize your productivity and achieve your goals efficiently. Here are some proven time management strategies that can help you make the most out of your day:

 

1. Set Clear Goals:

Start your day with a clear understanding of what you want to accomplish. Set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals. Having a well-defined purpose gives your tasks direction and helps you prioritize effectively.

 

2. Prioritize Tasks:

Not all tasks are created equal. Use techniques like the Eisenhower Matrix, which categorizes tasks into urgent and important, to prioritize your to-do list. Focus on high-priority functions that align with your goals and contribute significantly to your objectives.

 

3. Time Blocking:

Allocate specific time blocks for different tasks and activities. Create a schedule with dedicated time for focused work, meetings, breaks, and personal activities. Time blocking helps you stay organized, manage interruptions, and ensures that you allocate time to essential tasks.

 

4. Minimize Multitasking:

Contrary to popular belief, multitasking can decrease productivity. Instead of juggling multiple tasks simultaneously, focus on completing one task at a time. This approach improves your concentration and allows you to produce higher-quality work.

 

5. Use Technology Wisely:

Leverage productivity tools and apps to streamline your tasks. Project management software, calendars, and task-tracking applications can help you stay organized, set reminders, and collaborate effectively with your team. Tools like Slack facilitate seamless communication, reducing the time spent on unnecessary emails.

 

6. Practice the Two-Minute Rule:

If a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. Small jobs tend to accumulate and clutter your to-do list. Addressing them promptly prevents them from becoming overwhelming, freeing up mental space for more significant tasks.

 

7. Learn to Say No:

As much as you might want to help, taking on too much can lead to burnout and decreased productivity. Learn to decline tasks or projects that don’t align with your priorities or stretch you too thin. Saying no allows you to focus on what truly matters.

 

Effective time management isn’t just about squeezing more tasks into your day; it’s about optimizing your efforts to achieve meaningful results. Remember, effective time management is a skill that, when mastered, enhances your productivity and reduces stress, allowing you to lead a more balanced and fulfilling professional life.

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By Tim Elmore

 

One of the best questions I’ve asked people over the years was this: “If you had to do it over again, what would you do differently?”

 

I’ve received priceless pieces of advice, often borne out of regret.

 

I know what I’d say. When it comes to connecting with kids or engaging students, I have one action I’d take far more often than I did. I’m not sure why I didn’t leverage this single decision more often. It’s simple, and it almost always captures their attention and engages kids no matter who they are. When it comes to my parenting journey…

• I’d risk more and rescue less.
• I’d offer fewer explanations and more experiences.
• I’d do less preventing and more preparing.
• I’d be less concerned with schools and more concerned with skills.
• I’d spend less on possessions and more on perspective. 

 

When it comes to engaging students, my shift would be quite simple. I would provide:

Stories.

True stories.

True stories of their peers.

True stories of their peers who did something incredible.

 

More than forty years of teaching and thirty-five years of parenting inform how I engage the next generation. Since stories are so significant, I almost always launch a conversation with a story. They engage the right hemisphere of the brain, kids can remember them, and they’re easy to share with others. And most of all, they invite students into the discussion.

 

So, I thought I’d offer a collection of stories to you.

 

On November 16, 2023, Growing Leaders and Maxwell Publishing are launching a collection of stories called I Can’t Wait: 52 Stories of Kids Who Changed Their World…That You Can Discuss Together. These short stories make up 52 chapters, one a week for an entire year. They’re perfect for class time, dinnertime, or bedtime. They include discussion questions and a link to a video about the young person in that chapter. They’re about people, ages five to twenty-four, who stepped up and did something rather than “veg” on the sofa binging Netflix shows or watching TikTok videos. 

• Did you know a young teen created a women’s undergarment that can detect breast cancer when his mother suffered from it a few years back?
• When a young adult saw Kenyan kids whose shoes were too small, he designed a shoe that can expand and grow as their feet grew. He’s given away thousands of pairs.
• A young boy who immigrated to the U.S. had no friends at school. As a teen, he solved this problem by creating a school lunch program called “No One Eats Alone.”
• Did you hear a blind teen created a system for reading to help those who can’t see? Although he invented it a century ago, we still use it today. His name was Louis Braille. 
• Did you know a high school student designed the American flag we use today as a school project? When President Eisenhower chose it, this student got an “A.” 

 

Your job? Read the story. Discuss the questions. Watch a video. Decide on a takeaway.

 

Normally, we only hear bad news about kids on TV. This is good news about young people who’ve done fascinating things, instead of waiting until they were adults to change their world. They essentially said, “I can’t wait!” 

 

We have some great news for all of our readers. We will be having a FREE webinar to launch I Can’t Wait on November 16th at 12 p.m. EST and you are invited! To RSVP for the launch of this amazing resource, click here. To be honest, I can’t wait to put this book in your hands to better launch conversations at dinnertime, bedtime, or in the classroom. They will engage and inspire the kids near you. This could be a great gift during the holidays. To learn more about this amazing resource, visit icantwaitbook.com.  

 

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Commercial real estate development is a multifaceted process that involves a series of complex steps, from conceptualization to completion. Whether you are a seasoned investor or a novice looking to venture into commercial real estate, understanding the key aspects of commercial real estate development is crucial. Here’s what you need to know.

 

1. Market Research is Key:

Thorough market research is essential before diving into a commercial real estate development project. Understanding the local market trends, demand for specific property types, and the competitive landscape can inform investment decisions. Conduct surveys, analyze demographic data, and study economic indicators to identify viable opportunities.

 

2. Zoning Regulations and Permits:

Navigating the regulatory landscape is a fundamental aspect of commercial real estate development. Zoning laws and building codes vary from one location to another. Familiarize yourself with local land-use regulations, building height, parking requirements, and environmental considerations. Obtain the necessary permits and approvals before proceeding with any development plans.

 

3. Financial Feasibility Analysis:

Performing a financial feasibility analysis is crucial to determine the viability of a commercial real estate project. This analysis involves assessing construction costs, anticipated revenue from leasing or sales, operational expenses, financing options, and potential return on investment. A detailed financial analysis helps you make informed decisions and secure funding.

 

4. Site Selection and Due Diligence:

Choosing the right location is paramount in commercial real estate development. Conduct thorough due diligence to assess the site’s suitability. Accessibility, proximity to amenities, environmental conditions, and infrastructure availability should be carefully evaluated. Engage professionals, such as engineers and environmental consultants, to conduct site assessments.

 

5. Design and Development Planning:

Collaborate with architects, engineers, and contractors to develop a detailed design and construction plan. The design phase involves conceptualizing the project, creating architectural drawings, and planning the layout. Work closely with experts to optimize the use of space, ensure structural integrity, and incorporate energy-efficient features.

 

6. Construction and Project Management:

The construction phase begins once the design is finalized and permits are obtained. Effective project management is essential to keep the development on schedule and within budget. Regular site inspections, contractor supervision, and quality control measures are critical to the project’s success. Address any issues promptly to avoid delays and cost overruns.

 

Commercial real estate development demands meticulous planning, thorough research, and effective execution. By staying informed, engaging experts, and being attentive to market dynamics, you can navigate the challenges of commercial real estate development and turn your vision into a profitable and sustainable reality.

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By Tim Elmore

 

Let’s face it. It’s harder than we thought it would be. A recent Pew Research Center poll revealed that most parents (62 percent) say that being a parent is harder than they expected, and more than one in four (26 percent) say it’s “a lot harder.” Unfortunately, those little tykes don’t come with an owner’s manual, nor any training. 

 

Teachers feel the same way.

 

According to Tech Advocate, “Teaching is arguably more difficult now than it has ever been for many reasons, including learner behavior, fast-changing technology, and poor compensation.” Almost one in ten quit their job last year, and the average faculty member only lasts five years in their career. In fact, USA TODAY reported that the teacher shortage is so large that some schools are looking to bus drivers to fill the vacancies. 

 

How tough have things become?

 

While I’m an optimist, teacher videos on social media are alarming. One teacher said on TikTok, “It’s hell out here.” He shared that most of his seventh-grade students came to class this year learning at a fourth-grade level. (The post got 3.8 million views.) Another said people would be shocked to learn how far kids have fallen behind. He said, “The kids are 100 percent different (than before COVID), with behavior and classroom etiquette much worse.” (That one received 4.9 million views.) 

 

Dropping grades. Poor conduct. Is it time to return to some fundamentals?

 

Relationship + Inspiration = Connection

As I’ve spoken with educators and parents on this topic, they agree they’re having a tough time genuinely connecting with kids. The disconnect seems to be:

• Student engagement at school
• Genuine conversation at home

 

Continuing those discussions, I believe the sparks we need to ignite growth in these areas are:

• Authentic conversation 
• Stretching inspiration 

 

Over the last several years, I’ve been working on a tool to cultivate this conversation and inspiration. I believe students (children or teens) get engaged with stories — true stories of other kids who’ve done something incredible where they live. When they hear these stories, they benefit from a guide who leads a conversation about takeaways. Then, perhaps a video to watch of these incredible peers so they can hear more and go deeper.  

 

I Can’t Wait!

I’ve been collecting and curating such stories and placed them in a book called: I Can’t Wait: 52 Stories of Kids Who Changed Their World…That You Can Discuss Together. These short stories make up 52 chapters, one a week for an entire year. They include discussion questions and a link to a video about the young person in that chapter. They’re about people, ages five to twenty-four, who stepped up and did something rather than “veg” on the sofa binging Netflix shows or watching TikTok videos. 

• Did you know that a 13-year-old boy saved seventeen lives during Hurricane Harvey? Or that a five-year old kid led a group of toddlers to safety after Hurricane Katrina?
• Did you realize that Isaac Newton created Calculus and discovered the law of gravity while in quarantine as a college student? 
• Did you hear about a third-grade girl who sewed over 1,100 blankets for people in need?
• Did you know of the teen who invented a flashlight powered by human body heat? She was helping a friend who had no electricity. 
• Did you know that Jim Henson came up with the Muppets as a kid when his mom and dad bought him socks to play with and create characters?

 

Normally, we only hear bad news about kids on TV. But young people have done fascinating things. Instead of thinking they had to wait until they were adults to change their world, they essentially said, “I can’t wait!” 

 

We have some great news for all of our readers. We will be having a FREE webinar to launch I Can’t Wait on November 16th at 12 p.m. EST and you are invited! To RSVP for the launch of this amazing resource, click here. To be honest, I can’t wait to put this book in your hands to better launch conversations at dinnertime, bedtime, or in the classroom. They will engage and inspire the kids near you. This could be a great gift during the holidays. To learn more about this fantastic new resource, visit icantwaitbook.com.  

 

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